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Straightforward Questions

This is the second group of questions to explore who I am and how I can tailor habit-forming to suit me. From the book Better than Before by Gretchen Rubin.

How I like to spend my time:

  • What time of day do I feel energized? When do I drag?
    • I feel most energized in the afternoon. I drag in the mornings and in the evenings. (for now)
  • Do I like racing from one activity to another, or do I prefer unhurried transitions
    • I do not like to feel rushed.
  • What activities take up my time but aren’t particularly useful or stimulating?
    • I spend way too much time on meaningless apps on my phone and then wonder where the day went.
  • Would I like to spend more time with friends, or by myself?
    • While I do like spending time with friends, and need human interaction, I actually prefer to be by myself. If I don’t have enough me time – I feel overwhelmed, and if I don’t have enough human interaction – I go stir crazy.
  • Do I have several things on my calendar that I anticipate with pleasure?
    • I don’t really make plans besides work. I hardly have anything else on my calendar. Things happen when they happen.
  • What can I do for hours without feeling bored?
    • Read. Definitely read.
  • What daily or weekly activity did I do for fun when I was 10 years old?
    • I read a lot when I was 10. I also had a summer love affair with my bicycle. I think I rode over every street in my hometown.

What I value:

  • What’s most satisfying to me: saving time, money, or effort?
    • Saving effort. Figuring out shortcuts. Although I have no idea what I’m saving the effort for.
  • Does it bother me to act differently from other people? or do I get a charge out of it.
    • It definitely bothers me. Plus, it take too much brain-power to remember who knows what.
  • Do I spend a lot of time on something that’s important to someone else, but not to me?
    • I spend a lot of time on something that’s important to someone else. Reading other people’s content on the internet, but not any of my own is a good example.
  • If I had $500 that I had to spend on fun, how would I spend it?
    • Books. 🙂 I would buy all of the books that I’ve had on my waiting list.
  • Do I like to listen to experts, or do I prefer to figure things out for myself?
    • I prefer to research for myself what the experts say is the best way…so both? Having someone I know just tell me what I should do doesn’t work. I have to know all the why behind it.
  • Does spending money on an activity make me feel more committed to it, or less?
    • Less. I know I should feel more committed, but historically that has not been the case with me.
  • Would I be happy to see my children have the life I’ve had?
    • No. I’ve had way too much crap go on. I would rather have them be smarter and figure things out sooner than I did.

My Current Habits

  • Am I more likely to indulge in a bad habit in a group, or when I’m alone?
    • When I’m alone. No one is there to judge me.
  • If I could magically, effortlessly change one habit in my life, what would it be?
    • Exercising – or in my case lack thereof.
  • If the people around me could change one of my habits, what would it be?
    • **Note to self – ask DH**
  • Of my existing habits, which would I like to see my children adopt? Or not?
    • I would like my children to not adopt my habit of procrastination.

This Box or That Box?

The beginning of Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin has me exploring who I am, in order to better understand what works for me. These are quite a few questions that I have either never thought of before, or just never realized I was.

  • Am I a Lark or an Owl?
    • My sleep schedule is so messed up that I am not actually sure. This is one I will have to come back to later.
  • Am I a Marathoner, Sprinter, or Procrastinator?
    • I am definitely a Procrastinator. I believe that I normally would be a Sprinter, but I never feel good about my work and always wish I had done it beforehand.
  • Am I an Underbuyer or an Overbuyer?
    • I am definitely an Overbuyer. I like things. I like knowing that I will have everything I need. Which means I own a lot of clutter that needs dealing with.
  • Am I a a Simplicity Lover or an Abundance Lover?
    • I have always felt like I should be attracted to emptiness – bare surfaces and quiet. However this really isn’t the case, and I need to learn to accept (and manage) that I love Abundance. I like it to be loud, I love having choices, I love having everything and more is more. Hence, the clutter.
  • Am I a Finisher, or an Opener?
    • I am definitely an Opener. I can think of very few projects that I have actually finished. On the flip side, I can think of dozens of projects I’ve opened. Blogging being one good example.
  • Am I a Familiarity Lover or a Novelty Lover?
    • It seems like I should be a Novelty Lover, right? But I’m not. Not at all. I prefer what I know, and am so often uncomfortable doing what I don’t. I force myself to do what needs to be done, but I don’t enjoy it and hold off as long as I can.
  • Am I Promotion-Focused or Prevention-Focused?
    • I originally started out thinking that I’m both, in different ways. However, let’s be real, I am Promotion-Focused. I do so much better when I get a gold-star/praise instead of knowing that what I’m doing will be good in the long run.
  • Do I like to take Small Steps or Big Steps?
    • I’ve learned the past few weeks that I do better with Small Steps. Instead of a major change, if I can make one little thing a habit then I can build on it.